If a writer ever says they were never told "no," they're either lying or they're a damn unicorn because writers that always hear "yes" don't exist. If you want to put your words out to the masses, be prepared for a lot of rejection. It's the one experience every writer encounters at some point, once … Continue reading When A Writer is Told “No”
If no one ever told you how important it is to maintain your relationships, then I'll take this opportunity to do it. Maintain your damn relationships. Think about it like this: If you ever owned a vehicle, you know the importance of upkeep. You have to get oil changes, new tires, keep it gassed, buy … Continue reading The Importance of Maintaining Your Relationships
I'm going to go ahead and get the obvious out of the way: My opinions about single mothers and Father's Day are exactly that. Opinions. Take what I say with a grain of salt if you must, but I assure you I am not alone in this. So, let's jump right into it, shall we? … Continue reading Dear Single Mothers: Father’s Day isn’t for You
You know what really grinds my gears? When a person gets so comfortable in a role they forget they actually have to be that role. Like a wife. Or a husband. Both sides are guilty of this, for sure, but since I've seen more than a few wives forget their role over the last couple … Continue reading When Marriage is a Lie: Playing Your Role
I am often approached by people who are curious to know what I am. If I were to use sarcasm, as I am apt to do, I would reply "I'm human," but I know that is not what is meant when people inquire about my pedigree. Throughout the years, I have experienced several negative encounters … Continue reading Not Just a “Black” Girl: How Personal Identity Should Be More than Race
So you love him, but you don't trust him? You'll share your body with him, but you won't let him into your innermost thoughts? You say he's different from the rest, and yet you still compare him to every man who's hurt you? How does that work? I know the first few lines insinuated that it's women … Continue reading A Personal Look at Insecurity
The past is the past, right? It can't be changed, though it can be recollected. Memories are all we have to link us to our history outside of whatever physical consequences we managed to carry into the present. Tangible or not, it doesn't matter. A past is something we share with everyone and no one. So, why keep … Continue reading Letting Go of Baggage
Ask a hundred random people what they consider to be the top three qualities of their ideal BFF or mate and I guarantee you the "L" word will be mentioned by 99 of them. And by "L" word, I don't mean "love." That's probably asking for too much anyway. No, loyalty is the word we're … Continue reading The Painful Truth About Loyalty
Dear Every Annoying Valentine's Day "Couple," The day millions of women dread is almost upon us. I used to be like those women. Sad, lonely, single little me, hating any and everyone who had a "bae," or whatever the hell people call their significant others nowadays. It is bae, isn't it? Well, that's just stupid... … Continue reading An Open Letter to Obnoxious V-Day Couples
Okay, I know I am going to get into trouble for this one, but it has to be said: No one has a right to put their hands on anyone. No one has the right to verbally or mentally assault another person. No one has the right to cause another person to live in fear, … Continue reading Domestic Abuse: The Double Standard
